Clients often talk about changes they want to make in their lives. Someone asks, "Why does it take me so long to come to a decision?" I say, "It takes as long as it takes." It is important to give yourself as much time as you need, especially when making important decisions about a marriage or other significant relationship.
Someone once told me that I am like a bear, pacing up and down the creek bank, trying to find the best place to jump in. Suddenly, there is a splash, and the bear has jumped! That may be true for many of us. The work to make the decision is internal and not visible to ourselves or others. Yet change is happening.
When we bow to pressure from others to make a decision we may face consequences that we have not prepared ourselves for. And others do not bear those consequences. When we know it is time, we can deal with whatever follows our decision.
Know that the way is not always clear, and clarity will come one step at a time, just as we need it.
Someone once told me that I am like a bear, pacing up and down the creek bank, trying to find the best place to jump in. Suddenly, there is a splash, and the bear has jumped! That may be true for many of us. The work to make the decision is internal and not visible to ourselves or others. Yet change is happening.
When we bow to pressure from others to make a decision we may face consequences that we have not prepared ourselves for. And others do not bear those consequences. When we know it is time, we can deal with whatever follows our decision.
Know that the way is not always clear, and clarity will come one step at a time, just as we need it.
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